In trying to feel better people make one BIG mistake.
When trying to feel better, people exile parts of themselves. They attempt to disown or repress their troublesome feelings.
They say to themselves (or perhaps to others). “I feel sad. I don’t want to feel sad.” “I don’t want to feel (fill in the blank) angry, shame, helpless, powerless…”
When these emotions are strong, they flood our internal systems, making us feel bad. In this case, these strong emotions are hard to handle, of course we don’t want to feel this way.
Here’s a Secret:
In trying to get rid of those troublesome emotions or thoughts, the emotion of these parts just gets louder. And they can’t heal.
Right about now, you may be saying to yourself, “But what if I really don’t want to feel that way.”
Here is what you CAN do instead.
I’ll let you in a little secret: when parts are witnessed, they calm down.
When we are able to hear the voice of the different parts of ourselves and are able to hear our inner dialogue without judgment these parts begin to heal. We begin to heal.
If you get in the habit of listening to your inner dialogue, the parts will calm down more quickly. If you are upset by something, this process can lend itself to a faster repair of any internal ruptures you may be experiencing.